random thoughts…

2 03 2009


So I’m just hanging out at the Neighbour house out here in Chino and I decided to write some thoughts down.  I sometimes don’t really know what to write since a lot of my thoughts could come across as offensive to some people.  Not because they are vulgar or anything but because they go against the flow of what most readers would deem “correct”.  So I find myself failing to blog about thoughts that are truly on my heart for fear of offending people.  Normally I could care less if I offend someone when it come to my personal views but when it comes to writing out these thoughts and what not, i become turned off a bit.  But that is the world we live in today.  People don’t really want to hear what is actually going on in people’s life, all they care about is to hear the things that they want to hear.  So we find a group of friends that share in similar views on life and different life issues and we have conversations within those unspoken boundaries.

Just the other day I read a quote from someone that really didn’t make a whole lot of sense.  I read a response to that persons quote from another person which totally loved it.  I responded quite differently to the quote which was then deleted by the poster.  It’s funny how that works.  But such is life right?  We will continue to find people with similar thoughts as us and live within a community that isn’t really interested about who we are underneath all the masks we are forced to wear.  We are forced to say the right things and hide the reality of who we are and what is going on in our lives.  The sad thing is that the one’s that “love” us the most are satisfied with our fake answers for fear of walking through the trenches with a friend who is on the path to wholeness.  Living in authentic community is hard to find these days.  The reason being is because living in authentic community can be messy and most people don’t want to deal with that.  Most people prefer us to put on our masks to cover up the reality of what is going on and tell them that we are “good”, “life is great”.  Our friends who struggle with lust, envy, sexual temptation, eating disorders, depression, fear, guilt, shame… we pretend that we have never dealt with and of that and that they are horrible people if they struggle with any of these things.  So due to the guilt and shame that we show to them forces them to put on a mask to cover up the reality of their brokenness.  People who live in true community are surrounded by people who say, I know what your going through, lets do this together.  Too bad this doesn’t always happen.   People don’t want to deal with your sins because they are afraid to deal with their own.  So maybe we should stop posting bible versus that make us seem like we have it all together and start walking side by side with our friends who are fighting the fight and let them know that they aren’t alone.




2 responses

2 03 2009

Hey James,

I can not tell you how much I feel you on this. Seriously. Thanks for sharing.

2 03 2009

your words and thoughts are so true. i find myself putting on the the mask more than i ever want to some days. i long for that real community and am challenged to live without the mask and live life alongside my friends where we can be who we really are. its hard to make that connection with people. and i struggle with being authentic and real. thanks for the thoughts friend. it has got me thinking today.

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